Kicking The Bucket

Stressed over my failure to recognize drawing as a necessity to painting, I signed up for a drawing class. Then, I decided to cancel. After all, the entire experience was a stress. Apparently, I didn’t inherit Mom’s artistic talent. Why prolong the agony by taking drawing? Overriding my negativity, my husband talked me out of canceling and into giving drawing a try. More angst as I waffled back and forth over to take or not take the class. Let’s hear it for encouraging husbands because I decided to replace the negatives with positives and give art one more shot. It took just about three weeks to discover not only can I draw, I can draw well! While I struggled in watercolor class to mix colors in order to create some semblance of art, with a number two pencil I can create a minor miracle on paper. Excited, exhilarated, passionate about this new discovery, I now spend hours upon hours a week enjoying the thrill of what I can create with a mere pencil. And, I’ve moved on to pen & ink classes.

Shortly after retiring I also started a blog using the catch phrase, “retirement is a journey, not a destination”. Until recently, I didn’t fully appreciate the truth in those words. While we may make bucket lists, and probably should make lists, of wants, needs and long-awaited dreams, a bucket list is only a blue print, which may inspire other experiences or ideas. Occasionally, the bucket needs to be kicked over to make room for other possibilities, even surprises, which enrich our lives. Current hobbies or pastimes, while sources of pleasure and fulfillment, don’t mean there aren’t other passions out there waiting to be discovered. What you do all day is not about filling time, which is what I tell the volunteer seekers. Whether in retirement or the work place, being a warm body simply filling a slot is not living. Looking at retirement as a time of personal exploration and discovery ignites the spirit, mind and body. It truly is a journey. Make the most of it.!

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Kathy Merlino

Hello. I'm Kathy, retired, living with my husband of 38 years in Upstate South Carolina on our hobby farm of six acres. Since I found very little information on the emotional and psychological transition from career to retirement, I started Kathy's Retirement Blog in November 2012 to help me and others sort out what retirement looks like for those of us wanting a retirement where we can be mentally challenged, physically active and emotionally satisfied. Retirement takes more than financial preparation. It is more of a journey than an arrival at a life destination. And, it is not an end but a beginning. People are living longer, are more productive than ever. That said, getting to my happy place in retirement was a challenge. But, as I meandered through this life transition, I learned I am far from alone. I hope my story will provide you with insight and encouragement as you make or prepare for your journey. I spent my career working in banking and real estate, both commercial and residential, local and national. Martin and I retired at the end of 2012. As we retired, I started a journey of rediscovery of who I am without my career. I took up new hobbies such as painting and knitting and expanded old ones, planting a vineyard to satisfy my desire to try winemaking. Obviously, I quench my thirst for writing by blogging about my experiences and insights. Martin and I have two daughters, six grandchildren and seven cats. Yes, seven cats, rescued cats, some inside, some outside, some both. While one of our daughters lives in Michigan with her husband and five kids, our other daughter lives nearby so we see one grandchild often. My in-laws also live about 30 minutes from our house. Besides all of the above, I'm a Master Gardener, accomplished cook, bush whacker, watercolor artist, knitter and soon-to-be winemaker. And, I serve on the board of directors for an artists' guild. I also encourage you to visit me on Twitter

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  • I like the idea of kicking the bucket over. As a person who is a chronic list maker, I am enjoying living without lists in retirement. It's not easy, but the freedom it gives is amazing!

    Diane

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